Welcome to the wacky world o' DRAMs. At the time of the 64kb generation (the time of the 4164/4264), there were relatively few variants. That quickly changed, however. NMOS gave way to CMOS ( the "C" in 41256C), page-mode was supplemented by EDO, access times headed south, and variations on allowed addressing modes proliferated like kudzu.
For the 128K, 512K and Plus, all you want is good old, plain-Jane page-mode DRAM. NMOS or CMOS would be fine, provided that the access times are compatible. EDO chips will not work in any of those. That limitation likely applies to the SE, SE/30 and Classic I/II, but I have not tried EDO memory in those models.
Stick with pure page-mode chips, and you will be fine.