It has already been said that this is not a family.
I will also point out that this is not a private community either.
Everything that happens in our "army" does not stay in our army. It is published to the world in a very public manner. Anyone who wishes to lurk here can lurk here. Anyone can stumble across a conversation here by submitting a query to Google, or any other search engine. Anyone can join the forums, and the only way that they will be booted is if their conduct is particularly anti-social (like spamming). Members can also leave and never give the forums a second thought, because our only bonds are a common interest (and not blood).