I believe that System requirement had more to do with the 128K ROM than the RAM, as discovered when testing the highest System which will boot on a stock 512K.
Have you tried pairing down your 4.1 System on mini vMac? RAM may vey well be the culprit, but until the system is stripped it's hard to say for sure.
Tom Lee has basically said a 256K system is impossible, based on the way the System allocates RAM addresses.