They could easily have all been trashed. There were never all that many of them sold. A machine displays no external sign that one is present. A great many, probably a vast majority of SE/30s manufactured have been scrapped by now. It is possible that every SE/30 with one of those upgrades was scrapped at one time or another...
I have a similar worry regarding the "docking card" for the Outbound Laptop Model 125. As you may recall, Outbound's early business model required a purchaser to own a Mac Plus or SE. They then took the Plus or SE to an Outbound dealer who removed the ROMs and installed them in the Outbound Laptop. Then a docking card could be installed in the Plus or SE which allowed the Outbound to use the desktop machine's ports, memory and display when the two were connected by cable.
A Plus or SE with the docking card installed would appear as a broken machine (does not boot -- no ROM installed) and the only clue would be a little connector sticking out of the right side lower vent hole.
I really want one of those docking cards. I suspect they have all been scrapped as Pluses and SEs with them installed are discarded as non-working, their association with an Outbound Laptop long forgotten.