I live in DC. My candidates USUALLY don't win. And when they do it is only because I sometimes cross party lines.

Living in a democracy has little to do with being in the cozy position of having your candidate win. It's nice when it happens, but it often doesn't. If you want 100% representation of your views, you need to find yourself a nice deserted island so you can be your own emperor. No, really living in a democracy is about gracefully accepting the fact that you are in the minority for now, but you will try to change that through peaceful persuasion.