no matter how hard it gets be there for your dad. Death by cancer is one of the worst (sorry, but experience shows it is) - good luck.

As an aside - it is interesting how people cope with problems/events like this in their lives. For example in these last 12 months there have been 4 deaths in my family. On each occaision I disappeared for a week - didn't want to speak - didn't post or surf the net at all. Thats how I deal with it. Others want to be around others and talk about their feelings - for me this is too painful.